(So)(Co) Sit Down with Lauren Stahl

I'm excited to share this week's (So)(Co) Sit Down! In 2008, I staffed a Birthright Israel trip and Lauren Stahl was one of the participants on the trip. It was an amazing experience to lead a group of 18-21 year olds throughout Israel after experiencing it for the first time myself a few months prior. 

Lauren and I reconnected earlier this year when I came across her website, Sparkite and was totally intrigued by what she was doing in holding people accountable for their actions. She has some amazing things in the works that I can't wait to see and experience (and share with you!)





How do you spend you days?

The beauty about being an entrepreneur and having your own company is that no two days are the same. There are certain elements that I like to include on a daily basis to tap into that soundness of mind. This includes meditation, getting some type of physical activity, spending time with my dog, Luna, doing something for my sobriety and recovery, and writing!

On the business side, my days are filled with coaching clients, writing (lots of it), connecting with other individuals in the field, and continuing to build out SPARKITE.

What are three things you are grateful for?

My dog, my family, my sobriety

Explain your lifestyle in 5 words or less.

Authenticity, compassion, passion, determination, purpose

If you were to attend a potluck dinner, what would you bring?

I love food! This is a hard question. I would have to say roasted cauliflower with fresh parmesan cheese. Always a hit!

If you could gift everyone you meet with one book, what would it be and why?

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. It's a short read that I found extremely valuable. When I read the agreement "Don't take anything personally," something clicked with me. What others say and do truly is a projection of their reality. How freeing is that!

What is the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning?

Meditate. It's a must in my daily life.

If you could change one thing in your daily routine, what would it be? What would it take for you to make that change?

I'd want to spend more time meditating. I'd have to let go of the sense of urgency I have in the morning. I hold onto the mantra "Progress is perfection."

What does being healthy mean to you?

Being healthy is a state of mind to me. It means accepting myself just as I am. It means embracing the present moment and looking at life through a lens of love. It means nourishing the physical body so the spiritual soul can be nurtured.

When I can tap into that spiritual being within, there is growth, healing, a deep sense of love and compassion. I am able to be the best version of myself and show up not only for myself, but the people I love and care about.

Being healthy also means letting go of the need to control and truly taking life as it comes my way. This means accepting life on life's terms and letting go of the desire to run the show. It means trusting that everything will happen just as it is intended to. 

Have you ever been faced with health concerns that pushed you to change your lifestyle? 

This question is near and dear to my heart. At 25, I got sober. i was on a destructive spiral downwards with drugs, alcohol, and an eating disorder for a number of years. I worked on Wall Street and from the exterior: it looked like I had it all. yet inside, I was spiritually and emotionally bankrupt. My addictions were controlling my life and I was stuck in bondage of self. 

At 25, when I got sober, my life changed. I let go of these destructive coping mechanisms that were a large part of my identity for a number of years. I began to embrace the person I was put here to be, and also the person I spent years escaping from.

This moment of surrendering to my addictions is my moment of grace. My moment of clarity, and my moment of awakening. They say that pain is the touch point of spiritual growth and that was certainly the case for me.

My lifestyle has completely shifted. I lead with purpose, love, and passion. I am now able to use my experiences and help others. It truly is a blessing and I believe I went through what I did so that I can share my message of going from the darkness to the light.

What song can immediately change your mood in the best way possible?  

I am a big fan of house and dance music. Anything Avicii, David Guetta, or Kaskade

What is one piece of advice someone has given you that sifted your way of thinking?

Accept the things you cannot change.

These six words have become a mantra in my life. I spent so long trying to control and make everything go the way I wanted it to go. It was energy consuming and exhausting. Things have shifted for me now. I accept. I recognize that SO much is out of my control. And with this comes a sense of empowerment and freedom.

What article of clothing/outfit do you feel most empowered wearing?

My leather jacket. I would wear it everyday if I could. It's like my superman cape.

Complete this sentence: "In order to be happy, I need to..."

Accept my present circumstances and truly internalize that I am whole, complete, and enough just as I am.

What do you have going on in your life that you'd like to share with the (So)(Co) Community?

I am in the process of developing a more interactive community and building out SPARKITE. Think a social network and platform for accountability, positivity, encouragement, and living in the solution. Stay tuned!



Lauren Stahl is the founder of SPARKITE, an online platform that empowers and inspires users to work towards their goals with added support and accountability. She coaches people around the world, is a professional speaker, and believes that you can live the life you desire. You can learn more about Lauren and SPARKITE here.



Twitter @laurensparkite // Instagram @lauren_sparkite